The Breathing Prosperity blog

How do you feel about this sentence:

Money will not make you a better person.

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The Proof

Think about someone you dislike (come on, we all dislike someone…) and now picture them with a newly acquired 10 million dollars in their pocket. Picture them walking around sporting fabulous new clothes, and perhaps driving around town in a fancy new car. Now, while you may love the new ’stuff’ they have, and you may (or may not) feel jealous, you should easily be able to see that a) they are NOT any different than they were without the infusion of cash, and b) if anything, the money is exaggerating who they were. For instance, if this person has/had a tendency to be arrogant, then a lot of money will only exacerbate this trait.

Got it? Now that we have seen that the person in our theoretical exercise is NOT made any better - no nicer, no more gorgeous, no more likable - by their money, no matter what they may think, it’s obvious that money is empty, hollow and cold. It is a tool for exchange and nothing more. It doesn’t care who has it, and it doesn’t improve someone’s personality no matter how many beautiful clothes and trappings they surround themselves with. Sooo…see where I’m going with this? What makes you think money will improve your life?

Your Truth

Many of us hold certain sacred beliefs about money - especially when we don’t have any. We secretly believe that if we had ‘enough,’ we would live exciting, different lives. WE would be more exciting, better and different. We would be better-looking, more likable, maybe more outgoing and popular. Even though we have read and been told that money doesn’t do these things, many of us still somehow think it will.

The sooner you can clearly separate your emotions from the subject of money and see it as the tool it is - and nothing more - the sooner you will be able to take postitive action and create more for yourself. You will also be able to take a look at areas in your life which you wish to improve, and work on those as well. You know, those places where you have been waiting for money to fix things…your fitness level, your relationships, your communication skills. If you have been harboring fantasies forever about your ‘wealthy’ future self being fit, gorgeous, socially savvy and popular, but in reality you sit at home eating ice cream and watching TV, you are not facing the truth. Even if you won that theoretical $10 million tomorrow, you would not miraculously be any better at connecting with people, nor would you be fit, well-groomed and confident IF YOU ARE NOT ALREADY.

Today could be the day you take a hard look at reality and begin making some changes. This is a good thing! Sometimes we hide behind our illusions our entire lives and then realize, too late, that we’ve messed it all up. Eye-openers are always good for us, even when they’re tough. If this post has done anything to make you think differently about money and your life in general, then I am indeed blessed.

Thanks for visiting. We hope you are inspired to get out there and create what you want!

Additional posts you may enjoy:

• Wealth: Mindset vs. Education
• Wealth: The Progression of Views
• Are You Looking Prosperous or BEING Prosperous?
• Wealth: Your Financial Education

“We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment.”~ Jim Rohn

Patience is a virtue, my mother always told me…and I’ll bet your mother (or someone else close to you) may have told you the same thing.

But is it really?

The Good

Patience can serve us in many circumstances, both personal and professional. When we are likely to jump to erroneous conclusions, for instance, or when we react in a panic and almost do something against our own good…these are times when patience is a virtue. A prior commitment to - and practice in - patience allows us to calm down, assess a situation and react with calmness and dignity. It prevents us from ruining relationships and from making rash decisions we might later regret.

The Bad

However, what about situations where we are waiting for something good to happen, where instead of creating what we want in life, we sit back and hope they will happen the way we envision? What if ‘all good things’ don’t come to those who wait? What if, instead, the only thing that comes to those who wait is regrets at the end of life?

The Ugly

I have come to believe that ‘All good things come to those who wait’ isn’t necessarily true.

With respect to meeting life’s hopes and goals, this is definitely mis-guidance. (Sure, that’s not a word, but it works!) As anyone who has lost someone close to them or perhaps experienced a life-threatening illness or incident truly knows, LIFE IS SHORT. 

It is extremely easy to get complacent, and also to save our dreams for ’someday.’ For many sad and regretful people, someday comes when they are nearing the end of life and wondering how all that time slipped by so quickly. Someday comes and the realization of so many lost and forgotten dreams hits like a blow to the heart and soul…and the sense or urgency that should have been present all along becomes painfully apparent. We have all heard the adage about how much better it is to look back and be proud of everything we’ve done and tried, rather than to look back and wish we had done and tried things…yet many of us do not take this into account in our everyday lives. Even now, for instance, as I look back on my twenties I think to myself that if I had only known and practised then what I do now, I’d be much farther ahead financially by now.

The pain of discipline Jim Rohn speaks about is that of making the effort to do the little things every day which ensure our dreams are met, and do not instead fall by the wayside. The weight of regret truly  is far heavier.

The question then becomes, What will the future me look back and say to the woman I am today?…

I can see this because I am asking clearly: She will wish I was more consistent with my fitness, more proactive with my goals, and even more appreciative of loved ones. She will remind me to be kind to myself, while at the same time asking more from myself on a daily basis. 

The Beautiful

When we open our minds and perspective in this way, we can see opportunities and storylines to which we are now blind. We view our lives from a higher and wider place, and admit that someday is not only now, but is also coming sooner than we think. We bring our actions and our goals into alignment, and in doing so we enrich our current lives and our future days beyond measure.

Life can be a beautiful balance between being patient with ourselves and being impatient with our intentions, between passionately and actively pursuing our dreams and having the humility to allow the Universe to show us the way.

If you have clutter - in your home, your car, your office, or anywhere you spend time regularly - it’s hiding more than the occasional dustbunny. Behind that real clutter is some metaphorical junk, and you are in avoidance mode.

This may sound superficial, but it goes reaaallly deep. Don’t believe me? Consider the following:

Pretend with me for a moment…you have just spent a full weekend cleaning out your car, your home and your office…including the garage and the basement (insert your personal ’scary’ areas here). You have now inherited the money to get help in keeping everything spic and span. Everything is organized, and everything you own has its place. When you need something, you will now know exactly how to find it. Time will be saved on all fronts…and you will have agreat weight lifted from your shoulders as the ‘I should’s’ leave their familiar place in your mind. I should clean the kitchen…I should organize that junk drawer…I should organize the closets…

Now, the question becomes: what will fill that void? This is the real scariness that many of us are avoiding, often without consciously realizing it. We have a list of things we think we’d do with all our extra time if/when we become rich, but we spend out REAL lives avoiding extra time. Clutter is the tool we use.

If we had extra time, what would we REALLY do with it? We’d have to think about our lives, our goals (or lack of them) and what we want to do with this precious asset. By having to-do lists and I should lists, we create the illusion that all of our time is used up, indefinitely into the future. In this way, we can avoid really thinking about things we want and perhaps why we don’t have them. Thomas Edison is quoted as saying, ‘There is no expedient to which a man will not go to avoid the labor of thinking.’

If you think a life-changing, confronting challenge would do you good, look no further than your own life as it is. Clean everything. EVERYTHING. Pare down, organize, throw out, donate…and when all is said and done, spend a little time thinking about what you want to do with your life. The thoughts which will come to you will be FAR clearer than those you now entertain - the ‘I should’s’ will be about the really important stuff, which you have been avoiding. Try it and see!

You do, that’s who. And so do I.

Money is so fundamental a tool in our modern society that we literally cannot live without it. We would die of thirst or hunger, or exposure, if we didn’t have at least the minimum amount of money required to trade for the meeting of our basic needs. We need money just to survive…and who wants to just survive?

Knowing this, an objective observer would assume that as a species we would teach our children basic money-making and -management skills. Since money is our form of currency, used worldwide, we as humans must all have basic skills in obtaining, growing and using it wisely … right?

Things could not be further from the truth, as you and I know. The subject of money is, instead, entangled hopelessly within a web of wide-ranging emotions, beliefs, taboos, rituals, denials and accusations. We’ve made a mess out of something that is entirely inert and should have nothing attached to it except for the values we give it.

Can we change this as a society? Perhaps - perhaps not. What we CAN do is to help ourselves individually, and in doing so set examples for our friends, colleagues and children.

We can begin by trying to extricate ourselves from the complex topic of money; to separate ourselves mentally from it and begin to observe our habits, patterns and beliefs with objectivity. We, as observers, can see that although our beliefs don’t affect money itself, they affect how we act around money, thus affecting whether we attract it or send it away; whether we thrive financially or suffer.

We all have our own unique set of beliefs and practices when it comes to money, based upon our upbringing, the myriad influences of a lifetime and any opinions - skewed or not - we have formed on our own. In separating ourselves to ask what is valid, what is working and, most importantly, what makes sense for us today, we can take the first step to a brighter, more abundant financial future. Here is some food for thought to help you begin.

• Ask yourself, ‘What do I believe about money?’ You may want to start a list, and you’ll notice that this list will get longer as you go about your daily life and realize how many beliefs and thoughts pop up - you may just surprise yourself. Armed with this knowledge, you can then begin to ask yourself;
• ‘Is that true?’ With each belief, for instance that rich people are corrupt, see if you cannot find one - or many - ways in which you have personally witnessed it NOT being true. If you’d like to follow the brilliant and simple work of Byron Katie, another question to ask would be ‘Who would I be without that thought?’ 
• When you catch yourself hearing a message or belief about money in your head, ask: ‘Whose voice said that?’ This small step can be very revealing, as we discover that what we thought was our own voice is actually - often - that of our mother or father, or another influential person in our early lives.
• Importantly, when we discover beliefs we have about money, it is crucial to decide if this belief serves us NOW. Given where you want to go in your life, does this belief help take you there, or does it lead you astray, blind you to possibilities or perhaps limit you from believing you can even get there?…If the thought doesn’t serve you, discard it, and if possible, replace it with something that does. Repeat your new belief - even if it seems somewhat foreign to you - as often as needed until it feels like a part of you. Using the example above, you could replace the thought ‘rich people are corrupt’ with ‘Magnificent wealth is possible for all of us, and I am going to do wonderful things with my abundance,’ or ‘Millions of people are doing wonderful things with money, and I can, too.’
• Now that you have begun exploring  -and hopefully purging - your limiting beliefs around money, you can begin to learn new ones. Be open to learning from any source which presents itself; a well-off potential mentor you know but had never thought of in that way; your local library; cd and tape sets from successful people; personal development websites and blogs…the list is limited only by your own ingenuity.
• Now for the very personal work of defining your own financial future. An abbreviated outline of this task goes something like this (see our E-Courses for more on this): Ask yourself the key question: What do I want my future to look like? … This, of course, is a big question. If you have never really sat down to define your ideal future, this may initiate a work in progress. That’s OK. It is the beginning of your new life - the way YOU design it. Do not allow what you think is possible to limit you, because you cannot really know what is possible in the larger picture. Simply state what you WANT. As you work to define your ideal future, and to listen to your own voice, hunches about what to do will come to you…you can then take inspired action such as starting a new business, taking some courses or other tasks which just seem ‘right’.

These few ideas may seem overly simple, but they are NOT easy. Self-discovery is one of the most difficult, and yet most rewarding, pursuits available to us as human beings. Few of us explore our true potential, and even just in the field of finances, there is much you can do to learn, grow and prosper. Enjoy!

Part of growing up and standing on one’s own two feet lies in feeling a sense of responsibility; for one’s choices, circumstances, and life in general. Pulling up the bootstraps and saying ‘OK, no matter what has gone before, my life’s results are up to me,’ is just part of being a fully functioning adult.

Moving further along and discovering the personal development path, many take the concept of self-resonsibility even deeper. We learn that our thoughts, beliefs and attitudes create our circumstances, and we begin to explore the ways in which we actually affect the world around us. Learning, acknowledging and even changing the way we affect things and people around us is an important step, but the question for today is: is it possible to feel TOO much responsibility?

As food for thought, I offer a personal example which brought me to this question (and my own answer) today while I was contemplating it. My parents, who love each other very much, were fighting…it wasn’t an all-out fight but a war of no words and cold shoulders, and it made me extremely uncomfortable. After talking with both of them and wishing them luck, I was left wondering why a rift between two other people would leave me feeling so uncomfortable and sad. I often find myself deeply affected by conflict, and I am definitely in the habit of trying to ’solve’ things for people when I see they are unhappy or not getting along. As I think back, I see that this has been a pattern in my life…whenever there is conflict, whether I personally am in the middle of it or not, I feel uncomfortable and I try and ‘make it better.’

As I have grown, I have developed the habit of asking myself how I have contributed to any conflict I am involved in; what have I been doing that has caused this, or attracted it to me?  This sense of responsibility has moved me far into the life of my dreams, as it enabled me to sit in the driver’s seat of my own life. I think it is generally a good trait, and I have been proud of myself and frustrated when others lack it.

Getting back to the question…for some reason I made a new decision today to leave my parents to their tiff and just ‘never mind.’ It’s their business, I thought, and they are adults making their own choices. BINGO! Those two phrases hit me like lightning, with the realization that I had not been giving people - or myself - these two acknowledgements. Follow me through this point, because it’s really important and I felt a huge sense of growth and freedom when I internalized this insight today:

1) It’s their business:  What a relief! I somehow feel responsible even when people I care about are experiencing conflict. I have spent a lot of time learning that what other people think of me is none of my business, but somehow never applied the lesson the other side of the coin. It’s not that I’m butting in to others’ lives when I try to soothe feelings, but at the same time, I feel a remarkable sense of giddiness in realizing it’s really none of my business.

2) They are adults and they’re making their own choices: This is a bit of an expansion on point number one. My feelings of discomfort have come from judging situations as wrong: I had never thought of this before. In being so concerned, I was almost babying my parents and not allowing them to make their own choices. They want to fight? Let them fight! It’s OK. Again, I feel a great sense of relief.

This is a valuable insight for me, and will affect my life in profound ways. Some of you may already know this, but for those who don’t, I hope my sharing will provoke a little introspection. It’s been quite liberating, and anyone who wants to create and follow their own path in life definitely needs to feel liberated!

Today I passed a remnant of a past life; a green folder was in my kitchen and in it sat bills stacked neatly with dates of every bill I got, this folder held bills from - WAIT FOR IT - 2004! So in 2004 my life and my bills were in order, 2004 was also the year my son was born and I attribute it to my life going to hell shortly thereafter but back to my green folder. In this folder I had neatly labeled each bill when it was due and each creditor had its very own section, all checks that I wrote to each creditor was also filed along with the folder- I even filed my paychecks of course there was a misc section for any bills that just popped up as we call it, so this morning as I passed this green folder with bills, paychecks from 2004 the thought occurred to me that my mailbox was now currently overflowing, I had no clue when bills were due and paid them barely on recollection, If a creditor said I owed x amount, I’d have to go by their word as I had no files or bills to prove anything as a matter a fact most of my life had been going in this direction. My employees would tell me they made x amount and I’d make payments based on their calculations - as a matter of fact you could say I AM IGNORING MY LIFE. So today when I passed this green folder I decided today might be a good day to start organizing my bills, I had basically lived on the edge for 4 yrs not even sure if I was paying my bills on time and frankly not really caring either as long as I wasn’t 30 days late. Now that I think back, up until 2004 I had some of my most prosperous years and part of that probably had to do with the things that I did including having some organization to my life and my finances.

With the state of the Economy and us basically going into a recession it gets harder to think positive thoughts about finances and everything revolving money issues. I have some very good friends of mine who are now losing their homes in foreclosure, and one of the things I hear often is that they ignore phone calls and bills and the creditors trying to contact them to work things out…they feel if they just ignore things it will get better but instead they wake up and there is a sheriff at the door taking their house. My response to alot of things is just NOT TO DEAL with it, but not dealing with things and ignoring them does not help your life, actually it makes it worse when you realize if you had just answered a creditors phone call or told them the problem you could have been helped.

IF YOU ARE CURRENTLY IN A SITUATION - WHETHER LOSING YOUR HOME OR YOU OWE DEBTS AND YOU CANNOT PAY - STOP IGNORING YOUR LIFE, START ANSWERING YOUR PHONE CALLS, START TELLING THE CREDITORS YOU HAVE A PROBLEM AND NEED HELP BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY STOP IGNORING YOUR LIFE!!

Today I was reading a book Get Real and Get Rich and the author of the book Farrah Gray says his grandmother always told him to ask a question- Why not me? So I’m asking myself the question today- Why not me? It’s actually a really great question.. because the more I ask the question the more the answer that keeps coming back is NO REASON- There is no reason it can’t be me!
The book is about conquering the 7 lies keeping you from getting rich. I believe some of the lies were
The born rich lie, the winning the lottery lie, the famous lie but don’t quote me on the lies but this book caused me to think- WHY NOT ME?
If people are on the internet making $1 million a month- then why not me? This guy became a Millionaire at 14- GET THAT 14! and again you ask the question - WHY NOT ME?? He is now a 22 yr old millionaire.
You may have noticed that the blog now has a new design and if you scroll down to the bottom you will see it was made by yours truly- You can check out some of my designs at my own website- Yes that’s right there is an Ophelia Nicholson.com so there is a theme competition going on at lunarpages and I decided to enter. So far I’ve entered Missing Kids which is a missing kids theme that updates automatically from National Center for Missing and Exploited teens, I also entered Creation and then I thought about entering my ipod creation that plays mp3’s yes a wordpress theme has a built in mp3 player- but then the question kept coming up why would I ever win- till I asked well why not me- I don’t see any reason why I can’t win, I do great original designs, why shouldn’t someone else win- WHY NOT ME? So today the question is Why not you? There is no reason why it can’t be you too!

Alot of people will think I’m crazy for making this post- who has ever heard of a blog deserted for almost a year and then started up again…that never happens right! I think that a lot of times we fall off the horse be it, our exercise goals, our financial goals, our spiritual goals but how often do we fall off the horse and actually have the courage to get back on.
As you may have noticed we haven’t updated the blog in months or even been a part of the community for quite a while, part being the fact that your goals do change and shift into different directions and part being that sometimes your original goal may not be what you currently need in your life- It’s like having a goal of losing 20 pounds in march and you carry that goal for 1 month till you realize that maybe losing weight should not have been your aim but you should have made the strive to tone your body and that may not mean a 20 pound weight loss or it maybe having a goal to get rich and then realizing that you first need to learn financial money management and how to invest.

Moving away from your goals and then coming back

A lot of times we move away from our goals and we face a fear with coming back because we all hate to be seen as failures, I have thought a lot about coming back and updating the blog consistently but the fact that I had fallen off a horse (the horse in the instance happens to have been my spiritual growth), Left a huge sense of failure in my mind and sometimes when you look at failed project you feel its easier to keep walking away as opposed to giving it another shot. My son now 3 Nicholas, I haven’t spoken to his dad in more than two years, I remember at one point he disappeared for 6 months and when he finally made a phone call he said that the more time that passed the more you feel that you should just keep going in that direction and not try to go back and fix any old mistakes or work on any old goals that you may have given up on.
It’s even easy to give up when you feel you are continually putting in effort and seeing no results, that can be discouraging to keep going to the gym and after months you look the same or keep writing a blog and feel you are not changing anyone’s life ESPECIALLY YOUR OWN

Growth isn’t straight up, Growing doesn’t happen in a straight line
What did I learn from falling off the horse- I learned that despite what I think I am human, I do make mistakes, I do leave things unfinished but I also noticed that my spiritual growth and my practice and belief in law of attraction slowed or halted once my writing stopped. Growth doesn’t happen in a straight line, it doesn’t matter what it is, it could be losing weight, spiritual growth, a tree or a child growing, it never just happens in a straight line, sometimes you have a plateau, a rest period where none or little growth occurs and then like all things you have a growth period where everything grows at endless speeds.

Where am I now?
It maybe hard to believe but this post has been almost a year in the making, I would come and write a post, feel like a failure and stop so this time around I’d like to learn more about me- more about goals that I had high expectations for that got killed before they had time to grow.

My lesson for today to myself
Just because something shows no growth or movement doesn’t mean that it’s dead! What goals are you afraid to face and try again? Is it a blog, your health, a hobby, excerise -

Here is the question for myself today
Who am I afraid to face by coming back and writing the blog- Is it myself, the people who listened as we wrote- Who are you afraid to face by picking up goals that you had long forgotten about.

My thought for today
I am always making the best decision in that moment.

Ophelia

When you first begin learning about the Law of Attraction and the principles surrounding it, the very exciting prospect of being able to create your life any way you want it is usually where the motivation comes from.

As a little time goes by, perhaps you begin hitting a wall or noticing situations or places where you don’t always get ‘what you want’, and you feel some frustration. You begin to learn that you have hidden limiting beliefs that are keeping you within certain patterns. There are many effective ways to go about exploring and changing your limiting beliefs (quite a few of which you will see in our article archives).

One way in which we limit ourselves without realizing it is by fighting what is, or what has been. If you ever catch yourself saying ‘If only ‘x’ hadn’t happened, then my life would be so much different,’ or ‘If so-and-so would just wake up and appreciate me then life would be so great,’ then you are fighting instead of allowing.

Going against the stream of well-being, as Abraham-Hicks tells us, is fighting an uphill battle. Resentment, holding grudges, or being upset about a circumstance rather than concentrating on what we really want for ourselves (not others), causes us to be stuck and impedes our progress. It’s not the Law of Attraction that isn’t working - it’s us who are holding ourselves in a pattern of resentment.

While on the ultimate plane I believe we can affect reality completely, at this level we must work within the existing framework of our lives. We have a lot more power and freedom than we sometimes grant ourselves, and it is by letting go of limiting beliefs that we can be free to create in the moment, as we are meant to. For example, if you have identified yourself as a female who was abused when you were a child, you can release this identity while still being that person. Does that make sense? You are a woman. Period. The fact that you are abused does not go away if you cease resenting it. It simply loses its’ power over you, and is not part of your identity TODAY. Today, you can look forward and make conscious choices about your life and create the dreams you hold dear, without holding on to a limiting past resentment, however deep it may be.

The irony is that the things you are resenting are holding you back - YOU are the only one suffering by not letting go of grudges. As someone wise once said, resenting someone else is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die. The same applies when we resent or hate situations - jobs, relationships, circumstances - the poison is yours; you are swallowing it. 

With all the LOA information available these days and most of saying the same things, it’s easy to think that limiting beliefs are generic and easily dealt with. This misperception is what keeps many people stuck and frustrated. As you will discover and as this article illustrates, your own limiting beliefs are very personal to you. The more specific to your life you get when exploring your subconscious beliefs and triggers, ther more effective you will be. For some further resources, try the following:

EFT is a powerful releasing method that doesn’t even require knowledge of the beliefs so much as the reactions you have when affected by them. Our associate Rick Wilkes is a pro, and his website is full of good information. You can find him at Thriving Now.

As many of you know, I am a big fan of Bob Doyle and his Wealth Beyond Reason program, as it contains so many valuable resources, including ebooks, guided and brainwave meditations, interviews with many and varied experts, and much more. Visit his site at Wealth Beyond Reason.

Enjoy and prosper!

Have you ever become so caught up in pursuing your goals that you don’t even realize you are getting closer until someone mentions it?

Change is often so slow and gradual that it goes unnoticed. We can see this phenomenon with our children or others; much of their growth seems almost nonexistent until someone comments on how big they are getting or how much they have changed. Conversely, the same thing happens as we age and neglect to exercise, or as we slowly settle into a job we dislike and give up; the downward slide is so gradual that it is difficult to detect. [Just writing that makes me feel extremely uncomfortable.]

When it comes to ourselves, we must ensure we pay attention all along the road to our goals, lest we get discouraged by thinking we have not made any progress. Positive reinforcement for little benchmarks may be necessary and vital to continuing motivation. It also feels great to get little jolts of gratitude and energy by recognizing small achievements. It doesn’t matter how small they are. Be sure and stop every day - every hour if you can - and say to yourself, ‘Wow! That’s great, I just went a day without being drawn into conflict,’…or exercised each day this week, or made healthy food choices, or whatever the small things are which you are doing but perhaps not acknowledging. Remember that although your tendency may be to beat yourself up about what you are NOT doing right, this is only a habit, and you can change it.

If we can balance keeping our eyes on the big prize with acknowledging small victories and turning points, we stand a great chance of achieving what we set out to do. For instance, lately I have been thinking I have no goals, or more specifically that I have not  yet achieved the numbers I set regarding my financial independence goal. However, as a perfectly timed gift from the Universe, I found a goals sheet that I wrote only two years ago, and was shocked to see all the things I have accomplished from that list. It’s incredible…and because I am now living many of those things eg. own my own businesses, work from home, active every day, healthy relationships, travel regulalry, etc., it now seems so familiar that I forget how far I have come.

Another reminder, and the point of this post, was provided by a lovely reader named Suzanne on her own blog, who linked to us and put me in some fantastic company. She said that my posts ’shine with positive energy’, and this gave me such a huge smile and burst of gratitude because it has been my goal all along to shine with positive energy. THIS IS IT! I have reached my goal if that is how I come across. How wonderful!

When it comes to our goals, we need to reinforce our pictures of who we think we are - who we choose to be. Sometimes, as above, it takes another to remind us of this. For me, this means I have either been slipping in my goal- and self-defining work lately, or it means that I am living it so much that I didn’t even realize it. I suspect it is the former and will go write out and clarify my current goals when I am finished with this post.

NOTE: You  can never work on or look at your goals list too often. This is how we transform our lives; by becoming the person we choose to be on paper, and by constantly visiting this and amending as we go, we make it really workable. This is how we reinforce ourselves - the selves we are in our ideals. We can clearly see as we reach small milestones. We can look at that goal that said ‘I am active every day’ and remember that when we wrote it, we weren’t…we wanted to be, but it was a future goal. Now it’s so true that it doesn’t need to be a goal anymore. Don’t deny yourself of this pleasure!

For more on being your own motivator, you may enjoy the post Motivation and the Expectations of Others. Have a great day!