For any of you who have seen The Secret, there will be a familiar line about how, if you focus on what you really love about another person rather than the things you don’t like, the Universe will set things up so that you ‘zig’ when the other person ‘zags.’ In other words, the Law of Attraction works so that you cannot be in the same space as someone is vibrating with a totally different energy level than you are, at least for long.
Today I have a question, because it seems to be plaguing me as far as what is ‘right’ in this game of understanding and applying the Law of Attraction. If you are in a relationship with someone there will be things that you wish the other person would change…if you are in it long enough! Knowing about Law of Attraction, you may decide instead to look inside and see what you are doing to create whatever the situation is, and if the actions of the other are destructive, you may choose at some point to end the relationship. My question is this: at what point do you draw the line?…What if the other person’s actions are not harmful to you, but somehow you feel you need or want something more/different and you realize it is not fair to expect anything of the other person than to be who they are…? If we are absolutely in control, then we should be able to create the perfect relationship with just about anyone…thus there should never be a reason to leave ie. if we change ourselves enough, any relationship should work out. Of course I am not discounting the desires, and level of maturity, development, etc., of the other party; this is merely a concept I keep kicking around and cannot seem to find a solid answer. I have been asked by many people who are unsure of the point at which they should give up on a current relationship, and I’m asking myself the same question. After ensuring they are not staying out of fear of being alone, how does one decide? If there is already a relationship with a lot going for it, how do you know whether to focus on enjoying the good parts (ie. make those expand in your consciousness and in reality), or to really go for having everything you want, 100%…?
July 26th, 2007 at 2:22 am
I truely believe in the law of attraction. I have been following bob proctor’s free lessons and it has really open my perspective tremedously.
Law of attraction is not just about the thoughts but putting our emotions and action to manifest what we want.
Let’s share the positive vibes all around the world.
rejoys!!!
Rene
July 26th, 2007 at 7:44 am
Shauna,
This is an issue that I have dealt with myself, and the “zig and zag” ended up happening to such a degree that it eventually became clear that the relationship itself had to end.
As I moved closer to a more evolved (for me) state of mind that included much more positive thought and conscious creation, it became clear that some of the people closest to me were simply not in alignment with that lifestyle, at least not right now.
So, by continuing to be my own conscious creator and focusing on the thoughts, feelings, and actions that I wanted my life to be about, eventually there came a point where it was time to cut ties, and not only was it clearly defined enough to see, but it was a mutual decision, as well.
July 27th, 2007 at 8:57 am
I second you Rene. Believe or not, law of attraction works, even before I know this terminology.
July 29th, 2007 at 1:59 am
Yes, if you are vibrating very differently than someone else, you really won’t ever be concerning yourself with whether or not to cut ties with that person because they will be on such another wavelength that you will simply end up going your separate ways. You’ve heard some couples say ‘we just grew apart’, or ‘the spark just wasn’t there anymore’.
August 1st, 2007 at 2:47 am
Really good writeup on the law of attraction. I’ve been searching for more information in regards to this incredible phenomena…
August 2nd, 2007 at 5:12 pm
So often relationships are not given the chance to become all they could become. Mostly because we are impatient, emotional, pushy or self-absorbed. Who is too much for whom? Is it them or is it you?
Is there a way to bridge the two levels you are both at, whether with tolerance, sharing, or caring? I guess the answer to that will determine if to stay or to go…
August 5th, 2007 at 8:11 pm
Very interesting responses, and all valid, of course. There is no wrong answer…
I appreciate the feedback and it reflects the duality I myself feel at times…more to ponder.
Thanks, everyone!
August 19th, 2007 at 11:23 am
“Wrong” and “Right” can be such temperamental words. “Fat” was a bad word until everyone decided it was the TYPE of fat that mattered. Copernicus was almost jailed for being “wrong”. He had to publicly renounce his theory that the Earth was NOT the center of the Universe. Something “wrong” today may be “right” tomorrow or give us a deeper understanding of ourselves.
I believe that there is not so much as wrong and right but degrees of “pain” when we resist what “is”. ie. Every relationship (and the experience we have in them) is perfect as it is. Our “learnings” we gain and the growth people have together is the primary function of relationships (outside of children of course).
We DO create the relationships we want by 1. being ourselves 2. being there for others. Respect is a product of BOTH these “rules” combined.
March 30th, 2008 at 3:10 pm
I couldn’t understand some parts of this article of Attraction: Zigging and Zagging, but I guess I just need to check some more resources regarding this, because it sounds interesting.